“You can never know anyone as completely as you want. But that’s okay, love is better.”
A spectacular illustrated meditation on love, loss, and what it means to be human:
"Bad data in equals bad data out. Algorithms that dating sites have spent millions of dollars to refine aren’t necessarily bad. They’re just not as good as we want them to be, because they’re computing our half-truths and aspirational wishes."
“People sometimes say that you must believe in feelings deep inside, otherwise you’d never be confident of things like ‘My wife loves me’. But this is a bad argument. There can be plenty of evidence that somebody loves you. All through the day when you are with somebody who loves you, you see and hear lots of little tidbits of evidence, and they all add up. It isn’t purely inside feeling, like the feeling that priests call revelation. There are outside things to back up the inside feeling: looks in the eye, tender notes in the voice, little favors and kindnesses; this is all real evidence.”
Richard Dawkins on evidence in science, life, and love in a letter to his 10-year-old daughter
Kurt Vonnegut’s favorite book on love – a sort of dictionary of romance and sexual relationships covering everything from radical-for-the-era topics like birth control and homosexuality to mundanities like bidets and picnics to abstractions like disappointment and excess, originally published in 1963 by Danish husband-and-wife duo Inge and Sten Hegeler and featuring gorgeous black-and-white sketches by artist Eiler Krag.
Stendhal’s a timeless treatise attempting to rationally analyze the highest human emotion. Read on for his fascinating concept of “crystallization” and the seven stages of love.
“You don’t fall in love like you fall in a hole. You fall like falling through space. It’s like you jump off your own private planet to visit someone else’s planet. … PS You have to be brave.”
Why we fall in love, what we’re all made of, how dreams work, and more deceptively simple mysteries of living, explained by prominent scientists in answers to children’s questions.
A charming illustrated chronicle of people falling in and out of love, on bikes, from iconic French cartoonist Sempé.
"I just love as much as I did when I landed into your disappointed arms, that means with my whole self and all my dirty heart; I cannot do less." ~ Simone de Beauvoir
“The useless days will add up to something….These things are your becoming.”
When an anonymous advice columnist by the name of “Dear Sugar” introduced herself on The Rumpus on March 11, 2010, she made her proposition clear: a “by-the-book common sense of Dear Abby and the earnest spiritual cheesiness of Cary Tennis and the butt-pluggy irreverence of Dan Savage and the closeted Upper East Side nymphomania of Miss Manners.” But in the two-some years that followed, she proceeded to deliver something tenfold punchier, more honest, more existentially profound than even such an intelligently irreverent promise could foretell.
A formidably research, absorbing, eloquent account of how, contrary to the modern mythology of the 1960s, today’s permissive sexual behavior first developed, seemingly suddenly, some three hundred years earlier, in 17th-century Western Europe. What emerges is a new lens for understanding the Enlightenment as a cultural phenomenon, by connecting this critical sexual transformation to the intellectual, political, and social forces that shaped the period.
“Now I come to you full of future. And from habit we begin to live our past.”
Rilke’s love letters to and from the Russian-born writer, intellectual, psychoanalyst, and “muse of Europe’s fin-de-siècle thinkers and artists” Lou Andreas-Salomé, a remarkable correspondence spanning more than 30 years.
Writer and lawyer Eric Berkowitz explores the millennia-long quest to regulate and mandate one of the strongest drivers of human behavior, and the tragic deformities that result from the dictatorship of external authority over the most intimate of inner realities. Tracing how we went from the male bonding ceremonies commonly performed in medieval Mediterranean churches to the lesbian executions in 18th-century Germany, along the entire spectrum of cultural attitudes towards mistresses, goat-lovers, prostitutes, medieval transvestites, adulterers, and other sexual norm nonconformists, Berkowitz brings an eye-opening lens to one the most mercilessly judged yet universal aspects of being human.
“Love is letting him win even though you know you could slaughter him.”
“Love is sharing your popcorn.”
“Love is standing in a doorway just to see her if she comes walking by.”
“Love is being happy knowing that she’s happy… but that isn’t so easy.”
The Peanuts gang defines love through the simple acts and moments of everyday life, 1965.
Since 2009, illustrator extraordinaire Sophie Blackall has been capturing Craigslist missed connections in her delightful illustrations and unmistakable style of Chinese ink and watercolor, brimming with charm, romanticism and soft whimsy. Here, she collects the best of these poetic visual what-if love stories, each told in a shorthand “missed connection” ranging from the lyrical (I Gave You My Umbrella but the Wrong Directions) to the warm-and-fuzzy (We Shared a Bear Suit) to the shared love of the tragicomic (Ice Skating in Central Park We Collided).
See some of the beautiful illustrations at the link.
This exceptional volume gathers 650 meticulously selected and annotated letters exchanged between one of the most prominent couples in art history, photographer Alfred Stieglitz (1864–1946) and legendary artist Georgia O’Keeffe (1887–1986), who over the course of their 30-year romance exchanged more than 5,000 letters — roughly 25,000 pages — on everything from the rich detail of their daily lives to the breathless angels and demons of their passion.